Sexuality and Identity Coaching address how we view ourselves as whole persons (Mind; Body; Emotions; Spirit: and Energy).
Mind : Information. Your “self-talk,” thinking about sexual performance, capacity for fantasy, troubling thought patterns such as compulsivity.
Emotions: Feelings that you carry from the past, about your body and body image, what you suppress and express, how you express your emotions, and your capacity for intimacy .
Body and body-image issues: Physical. Knowing how your own sexual pattern works, understanding your own body's sexual architecture and function, acknowledging your own sexual (dys)functions, learning skills for how to be a successful lover alone or with a partner .
Spirit: The essence of self. Esoteric moments or practices that transcend the moment, such as peak orgasm experiences; sacred sexuality; the more subtle and delicate manner in which people deny or reflect their inner self through sexuality; the path of sex to experience the Divine or God.
Energy: Sex is all about energy! The build-up, the containment and the expression of energy. In my “one-on-one work” I observe energy patterns with the individual and with a partner and give coaching feedback for handling this often overlooked part of sexuality.
Sex coaching embraces a present, creative, dynamic and result-focused ‘art’ in interacting with client(s).
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The sexological model deals with what people do sexually and how they think and feel about it. Sexuality can be the root of our expression, though paradoxically its non-expression may also be pivotal to our deepest fears, and eventual repression as we navigate life and succumb to blending with belief and political systems. Therefore, for a definition of ‘sexual health’ one must err on the side of caution. ‘Sexual health’ is a construct of widely variant societal mores. Notwithstanding, sexual health, as I see it, is related to physical, emotional, mental, and social well-being, and how one feels and expresses as a person.
With so many taboos and dysfunction in relationships, there is clearly a great need to extend life coaching beyond its traditional bounds. Though life coaching also aims to empower and lead an individual away from pathology and ‘fixedness’, in my experience it can side-step getting to grips with the depth of knowledge and openness required in working with a person’s sexuality. The training at Sex Coach University has helped me to be able to reach out and go deep.